What’s Right, What’s Wrong?

There’s a right and a wrong way to do anything right?

It wasn’t until recently that I’ve come up with the conclusion that there is no right or wrong way to approach a relationship, only YOUR way.

It wasn’t until I stepped back to take a moment to think of what I could do different to make something work out a bit better that I discovered that there really isn’t anything that I could do differently that would work in my favor. Of course, I could technically try out a bunch of different options, but if those approaches aren’t reflective of who I am then it serves no point.

I like providing examples to go along with my words:

Picture applying for a job with a resume only to find out that your resume needs a bit more sprucing up. So you go and add all of these skills that you really don’t have, but know that it’d look better or perhaps gives you a bit more of a chance for an interview. So then boom! You were right, sprucing up your resume landed you the interview and got you the job right. So here’s the part that counts… DOING the job. You’ve fluffed yourself up to be this BOSS.. this PRO at this job and then you can’t fulfill the position…

To bring this on home…

There is no “right” way to be yourself. There are real rules to interacting; either you mesh or you don’t. In an instance that you don’t mesh; it doesn’t mean that there is something “wrong” with the next person.

 

Words of Wisdom: My words of wisdom are simple. Being yourself is enough. There is nothing wrong with you just because the next person doesn’t get or understand you. I’d only encourage one to find out what works for them and make it right. 

 

 

Word Play..

I don’t want a boyfriend, I want a friend.. that’s a boy..

I don’t have secrets, I have business that I don’t care to share with you..

I’m mad, I’m just VERY VERY VERY disappointed..

I didn’t expect anything, I just kinda hoped it’d go differently..

((Word Play))

I may admit to using all of those lines at one point in time.. I can directly give confirmation that word play happens to be the best catalytic form of missed communication that I know!

…Word Play…

Saying what you don’t mean, but meaning what you say.. Of COURSE you want a boy that’s a friend, but you also want a boyfriend. Of COURSE you hoped it’d go differently, you expected it to go a LOT better right?? Yeeeea…

||Word Play||

It’s something I’m good at actually. This contradictory, shy yet forward, genius form of communication is something that I grin at because the effortless, unknowing way that people do it, intrigues me. The way a person can say what they don’t mean, but in their minds, mean exactly what they say.. Interesting right?

:|Words of Wisdom >> Word Play|:

Use word play wisely. When I say wisely, I mean use word play when you are not trying to validate a serious point. Use it when you are not attempting to be direct in your approach. Use it when you’d like to send someone on a goose chase and have them figure out something that you don’t feel that you’d like to necessary say. Use it at your own risk.

Now after you read my Words of Wisdom, how do you feel about my concept of Word Play? 

 

Furthermore Readers, Be Blessed…

–Yours Truly, Guru.

 

A Year Older…

June 24th I turned 24…

The question most people always break the ice with is: How does it feel to be 24? With no real sufficient answer I say the first thing that comes to mind and that is: “The same as I did on the 23rd.. no more different than 23…”

Welp, I’d like to not so much recant my initial statement but rephrase it for better understanding.

I feel a sense of urgency..

As I did when I was 23.

Every year my birthday comes around, I like to take a moment to evaluate where I am in life. I don’t mind feeling the same as I did when I was 23, as long as the same defines happiness. I don’t mind..

I was having a conversation with a young man and he asked: “What you gone do different at 24?”

So I’ll explain.

See when I was 23, I felt like I was preparing for 24. When I was 23 I felt like everything I was doing led up to the point where I’d only have to maintain it at 24 and once I became 24, I could take THAT which I learned and accumulated at 23 and prepare to be 25 while I was 24…

Did I lose you on that?? 

Because I understand the fact that I’m not getting any younger, I’m not a person to live in the moment too much. I’m not a person to stretch happiness. I’m a person that would rather find different forms of happiness as I go on with life. I’m a person who welcomes change even if I don’t like it, therefore I understand that what may make me happy at 23, may not make me happy at 24. So while I’m 23, I’m preparing for that change. Mentally preparing my mind for that shift that may come.

&&& when I say shift, I simply mean that moment when I merely don’t want to do certain things anymore. No, I don’t want to eat McDonalds anymore, I want to go to a restaurant and sit down. That’s a simple shift. A heavier shift would be: No, I don’t want to date for years to fall in love never, I want an acknowledged foundation.

He felt as though I skated around the question as to what will I do different at 24. However, if you read the same words I’m proof-reading now, you’d understand that my 24, is your 25; that it’s not a matter of doing things different, versus better with more direction; that at 23 I was trying to stay 2 steps and 3 thoughts ahead. I will continue to strive to do that.. [There’s your answer]

I’m A Year Older…

I did what I had to do at 23, and I was ready… AM ready.. to now be 24.

Furthermore, Be Blessed

–Yours Truly, Guru .

 

 

Before You Do…

This post will be short, sweet and to the point as I’m actually replying to an inbox that I felt couldn’t wait for an answer. It’s SO relevant to life right now, I felt  like she was on Skype with my BFF and I last night… Lol

Before You Do..

Before you do anything in life I feel that it’s more than necessary to know the answer as to WHY you are about to do that particular thing. If you are about to go shopping, or skip out on a lunch etc; I think it’s quite relevant to know why you feel you must. I’m a fan of having purpose and reasons behind actions so that if the time comes that one must explain, they are able to. [[Simply Put]]

Once You Know..

Once you have a grasp on why you are about to engage in something, I feel it’s important to be prepared. When I say be prepared, I mean be prepared to deal with any spectrum of consequences that may follow that decision. If you’re skipping out on a lunch then perhaps be prepared to receive a little attitude from that friend that you stood up. If you’re going to play hookie from work, be prepared for that check to look a bit smaller.

Follow Through…

I’m not really keen on half-ass doing things [excuse my language]. It’s kinda of a thing where you have to put your money where your mouth is [never really got that saying, but you know what I mean]. One may only follow through once they’ve done something, and don’t do it unless you plan on doing it correctly. So once again, if you ditch the lunch with the friend, and are prepared for that attitude.. follow through/follow up with a rain check. Don’t just leave them hanging and waiting. If you’re going to play hookie from work, the next time you go into work, don’t go in there looking like a ray of sunshine if you said you were sick LOL…

Although this topic may pertain to many other spectrum’s of life, I chose to keep it G-rated and appropriate. To the young lady who actually requested the topic, I hope it was easy to catch my drift. Before you take a step in the wrong direction, consult with yourself. Make sure you are doing it for the right reasons. Make sure there is a purpose behind it. Know that “because you just want to” stopped being an acceptable answer a long time ago, and I don’t accept it too much because there’s always a more intricate answer as to why. If ‘because you want to’ is your first answer, ask yourself WHY until you come up with something else. If you can’t come up with anything else.. then my dear, I’d say just wait a while and get your thoughts together. I’d hate for you to make a poor decision.

Furthermore, Be Blessed.

Consistency

This Shall Be Short & Sweet…

Consistency.

You ever meet someone who one moment you adore them; the next moment they’re a pain in your behind; the next moment you really feel like you don’t even know them? It’s a real task to keep up with that huh?

I feel that it is imperative that one understands that the faith a person builds in you depends on your consistency. For instance, if you are someone that many people call on in their time of need, it might be due to the fact that they KNOW they can count on you for whatever reason. You’ve given them a reason to instill that faith in you. On the flip side, if you’re someone who’s always cancelling a plan; or never picking up the phone during emergencies, I doubt others are going to have much faith in you when it comes to certain things.

Consistency In Relationships

I mean ANY relationship. Romantic, Business or Friendship. Whatever the relationship is, I’m sure the recipient wants to feel as though they know you. I can’t really give too much explanation when it comes to being consistent.

If I had to give some direct encouragement, I’d say:

• Do what you say you’re going to do
• Be who you want people to see and know you as
• Treat others how you want to be treated
• Don’t make promises or plans that you can’t or don’t intend to keep
• Don’t FEEL obligated.. BE obligated [How Obligated Are You]

Simple.

See… short & sweet. It’s not hard, so don’t make it hard to be consistent.

Everyone Needs a Budget

8:40am EST

No I’m about to help you come up with a successful financial plan. No I’m not about to break down the value of a dollar or help you get your household in tact. [Unless you need help doing so]

This morning I just want to give a quick reminder. I’ve, in the past wrote “Don’t Feel Bad” about not over extending yourself to others. I’ve written about “Letting Go” of certain things and I’ve encouraged you in my post “Don’t Stay”

What I realize that I didn’t tell you, was to know your limits. One must know just how much they will take or one will never know when enough is enough. Just to break it down for better understanding and to avoid capping off at one subject matter, I’m using the metaphor of knowing your budget.

Keep Up With Me Now…

Say you get paid and before all, you know you must pay your bills. Say after you give what you have to give you’re left with a mere $50 bucks. Then it clues to you that EVERYBODY called the day before to borrow and have some of your money. [Here’s the part you need to read carefully] One must know just how much they actually have to spare. You can’t give what you don’t have to give. [Seems simple huh]. Seems simple when dealing with money because you know who you wouldn’t let borrow your last, or who you wouldn’t let borrow a thing a all. Seems a bit more complicated then not when it pertains to your emotions.

If only we could use a simple budget to calculate the logistics of the heart. If only it were a mathematical equation that sways our brain to think of whats what and not the could be’s. [I almost started preaching/rambling].

Words of Wisdom: I would never encourage someone to NOT give their last quarter to someone else; I would only encourage one to make sure they don’t actually need that quarter. I would encourage that one pay’s their ’emotional bills’ on time. Meaning, how can you properly show someone else a certain amount of love, concern and time if you’re emotionally deprived in the worst way. In laymen terms, how can you pay someone else’s light bill and then you sitting in the dark?? 

Furthermore, Be Blessed.

8:55am EST

Let Them Show You…

For the sake of tired eyes as I am writing, I of course will make this short and sweet..

Let Them Show You..

Put to rest the detective in you. Allow others to present themselves to you without you trying to analyze every single thing about them. I’m sure as individuals we see ourselves as great judge of characters. I’m sure we pride ourselves on being able to recognize the phony and embrace the real..

Don’t misconstrue my words though. It’s okay to have your own thoughts, it’s fine to observe and gain a grasp on people. It is just as well however to give someone the benefit of the doubt.

I’ve come to a small tested conclusion that it is simple, and less mind boggling to actually relax those thought muscles and allow someone to show you all that you want to know. They say: actions speak louder than words… I mean if you’re into metaphors, then I’d say go with this. Allow their actions to speak for them. Stop asking a million questions formatted like an interview. Challenge yourself to actually observe more than their Facebook pages. Challenge yourself to actually take in what is in front of you.

Let Them Show You…

I tell you it wasn’t so easy for me to let go of control of situations for me. I was actually always someone who enjoyed being able to piece together the personalities of people. I was always very keen on beating them to the punch, with a certain hidden fear that the person they’d present to me wouldn’t be the person they actually were. I’ve learned however that my notion and reasoning for doing so was nothing more than my lack of vulnerability, trust, and fear. I’ve tried to convince myself for the longest that my reasoning for analyzing was to protect myself, but then I noticed that I didn’t know what I was protecting myself from exactly, coming up with everything possible to make sense of it. When really going into it, I had nothing to fear. I had to understand that as long as I had a thought of who I thought they were, I wasn’t giving them the proper chance to show me anything.

Let Them Show You…

At Ease…

Furthermore, Be Blessed.

Everyday Is Mother’s Day

Massage parlors and nail shops will be filled… Hair Salons and restaurants.

All things that women like will pretty much be booked and filled with smiling, relaxed faces.

I feel like Mother’s Day is one of the greatest non-official holidays around. Its not only a day to be thankful of all the great things mommies do for us, but more importantly just to be grateful that she pushed us out and brought us into this world.

Mother’s Day for some may also be the hardest day to deal with. I know a few people whom don’t have their mother around anymore. I know a few people who all they would want in life is to have their mother around for a simple hug and decent conversation. -_- I know a few people who never actually had a mom around.

So this post is actually not to give good gift ideas, it’s to encourage those whom just see it as a gift giving day to take heed to the appreciation side. Some day it will be you who will want nothing more than to hug your mom and have a decent conversation.

Gifts are great, but don’t only use this designated day to show your appreciation. Everyday your Mother is a Mother… Everyday should be Mother’s Day. So as this day approaches us, think not only of how much money you can spend. Think of how much time you can spend.

Be consistent. Be helpful. Be mindful. Be that great child. 

Be Thankful. Be Blessed.

–Guru

 

 

Dreams $old Separately – Mighty Jai

Mixtape Cover

Jai Price a St.Pete, Florida Native released an Intro song May 8, 2013 at 7pm EST that grew my anticipation for the actual Mixtape.

If you haven’t already heard music from the talented, ambitious artist formally known as Mighty Jai, I can just inform you NOW that it’s worth every ounce of space that it will take up on you laptop or smart phone!!

The production is CRAZY! I can’t explain how great those beats are!

The interludes of poetry he incorporated on his Mixtape were great as well. Great job to the writers and speakers.

Dreams $old Separately did anything but disappoint me. His lyrics and delivery will quickly put you in a trance. Songs such as “The Struggle” and “The World Around Me” confirmed my prior thoughts that there are other things to talk about besides money, cars and loose women; That there could actually be substance in songs. That the struggle does NOT consist of low record sells, but of what everyday people are going through. Relatable things.

“Passive aggressive with the flow so I don’t sound hype…” – Mighty Jai

[FYI I can’t say that line without saying it how he did in the song lol]

He couldn’t have described his method of delivery better! I feel that as an upcoming artist he possesses that quality that I feel today’s mainstream artist lack and I feel it is the delivery aspect. He has a way of conveying his messages so that even the most provocative line doesn’t offend you. He has a song titled “A Song About It”, very adult in content, but not even close to being ratchet in my opinion. It had a playful truth to it. Many people think it, many people might even have a situation as such, BUT Mighty Jai wrote A Song About It.

Amongst my favorites were “Peachy Keen”, “Marinate”, and “The Struggle”.

I’ve become intrigued by his subtle openness with his audience; His way of perhaps telling a story without giving too much personal information; His ability to be cocky through his music, but possessing a very humble attitude as an artist.

I can remember driving up to Atlanta by myself, missing Tampa and pressing play on all the Florida local artist I could find. I had a CD with his music on it packed away, and on my phone I only had 7 songs from Might Jai. Somehow I listened to 7 songs for a hour and a half. That’s how I KNEW he was good!

In my mind this young man is going to be on TV screens and billboards soon! Accepting awards as new breakthrough artist and being featured on grand songs!

I like to give credit when credit is due. I was prepared to save my pennies to get it off iTunes. Congratulations on a great Mixtape!

Followers, onlookers and supporters>>> Support Good Music!

 

–Alisha Pass

AKA Your Guru. 

 

Don’t Change

Greetings lovely people…

As always something ignites my mind and brings me here. As always I will try my best to make this short and to the point.

Don’t Change.

Okay bye ^_^

No but really, don’t change.

I know that sounds crazy coming from someone who feels that change is good. That certain change represents growth. So now I need you to read this post carefully so that you are not confused by the title.

To The Point:

I don’t think there is anything worse than feelins like you’re dating one person, only to find out that they are extremely different from whom they presented themselves to be.

I always encourage people to start how you’re going to end. A basic explanation of this would be if you’re a social butterfly, but present yourself as a homebody because that’s what you feel he/she would prefer THEN once you get together, you come out your shell and wonder why there’s a problem when your partner is complaining about you going out ALL the time. Well that’s because they’re not accustomed to this ‘new you’.

Are you following me?

There is nothing wrong with being who you are from the beginning. The reality of it is, is that you will not always mesh well with everyone. Everyone will not always like, understand or want to mesh with who you are.

But don’t change that. Find someone who will simply appreciate that.

I see this most frequently with ladies. Adding all these extra traits to impress a guy. Ladies it’s OK that you don’t cook, clean, travel, hustle, read, watch sports, like kids, work, AND fix cars (LOL). It’s OK. Don’t get me wrong, it’s always great to grow and learn [for the right reasons], but I don’t encourage premature change. I don’t encourage changing for someone else if it’s not a genuine change. I don’t encourage pretending, well LYING about who you are to curve someones thought of you. Really.. how you gone keep up a persona that’s just NOT you??

Don’t Change. 

“…Just start how you’re going to finish…” -Guru

Furthermore readers, I hope you understood where I was coming from with this post and didn’t go too far left with it.

Be Blessed ^_^