Plugged.

Let me get right to it;

i always get asked by the most random people what is it that i do here in atlanta. I’ll tell you what i don’t do…

I do not work for free; ok goodnight… lol [in real life]

Just a synopsis of what it is I do all day – 

ok, so picture this 30 year old human whom has a pretty decent mind with pretty decent goals and just recently decided that they wanted to get serious about life. They decide that in the near future they want to be able to make life decisions and have their finances be ready as well. [however] they don’t know who they need to speak to, what they should do, when they should do it or how for that matter!

Here’s where i come in…

i sit down for about 20 good minutes on the phone or in person [as long as its a good hair day] and I have them tell me their goals just as they did their friends and parents, right. After those 20 good minutes i map out what they will need to do to accomplish these goals – but not only do i map this process out, i assist them in accomplishing this [and] in maintaining their new and improved life, that i let them take all the credit for changing [inserts emoji face].

So in laymens terms, I assist individuals with most things finance:

Obtaining Funding. Personal & Business Loans. Credit Restoration. Credit Building. Business Planning. Business Setup. Bookkeeping. Accounting.

[and a slew of other things that can save a life]

Seguing —

I would have never known the importance of making wise financial decisions and planning ahead financially had it not been for me wanting to get serious about life. so ‘what is it that i do?’ – i help those who are trying to transition and better themselves financially.

Take it from me; you are not going to want to be 40 when you finally decide you want to buy a house with a 30 yr mortgage. Let’s face it, we all won’t become millionaires and buy our houses outright; most of us will be regular people waking up to a different kind of grind.

Words of Wisdom: Education yourself when it comes to finances. Understand how your decisions can effect your future. Know where you stand in life. Acknowledge your true status. Think beyond today - be a Big Picture Thinker!

[Then] speak with me.

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The Pressure

There was a time that I couldn’t find a piece of mind

Stretching every piece of my mind, to what required a piece of my attention

Losing retention; the irony in that.

Taking in so much that I’d forget this and that.

I blamed it on the pressure

My stressors; my many responsibilities.

The rent due, lights, cable, car.. it was killing me.

No literally killing me;

Insomnia kicking in, no sleep — i had no energy.

The pressure, thinking about all the pressure.

Caught a flat tire, gotta get another one; that’s another stressor.

Money flowing in, love flowing out;

Prioritizing the things I can live without.

Just a whole lot of random pressures……

—- [Insert your many pressures in life]

I’m thankful for the pressure

Long nights, early mornings and Starbucks.

I had a random thought, and it translated like a poem actually. My recent pressures have put me in a position lately to choose, to prioritize. It was the worst-best thing that could’ve happened for me. I will admit that I’ve never been the type to force myself to choose if I could find a way to have it all. SO imagine my ignorance to making “this or that” choices. It was all bad… until it wasn’t.

Somehow I managed to make a choice and be good with that choice no matter what. I’ve excelled tremendously in the way that I react to things. Over the past however long, I’ve been really digging in with getting to know the things I like and don’t like. The things I’ll entertain and what just doesn’t work for me. The things that matter and those things that are merely around to provide commercials when you’re tired of dealing with the real things in life.

So yeah, I’m thankful for the pressure. I can say it played a catalyst in the person that I’m becoming. Feeling that pressure taught me that I had to work harder than I ever thought I’d have to work. It taught me to be honest with myself and others. To prioritize. To grind. To turn water into wine.

I feel that one whom has never had a moment when the pressure is on, 3 seconds til the buzzer, with the game winning three point jumper on you… they just won’t understand where the real grind originates from.

Words of Wisdom: Don’t be afraid of that added pressure. You’ll either get through it a conqueror or a loser; you choose. 

Step 6: Remember?

Step 6: Remember?

Did you participate in the first test in Step 5? How’d it go for you? Well month two, perhaps I should’ve clued you in, is a ‘check point’ month. Meaning, by month two, although still early, it should be enough time to make a few decisions. Looking at relationships from a time perspective can make things seem like they are too fresh to even worry about certain things. However, when dealing with feelings it’s encouraged to continuously acknowledge them. There will be people whom make a connection within a short month. There are people that might FEEL that they really like this person after about a month worth of heavy communication. So I like to get everything squared away. While the first 3 months are supposed to be fun, they are as well the months to pay attention.  

            So this step is simply another game in a sense. Not such a test as before. Observation. Open your eyes and pay attention and apply your learning.

            Remember this is not all about YOU. So on your next date, outing, dinner or what have it, you can go to a place that you’ve been before. Suggest that you be each other for the day. Meaning, if you are together and he says he’s hungry, you suggest what he eats and vice versa. If you go out to dinner, you order his food and vice versa. It merely is a fun way to see if one is really paying attention to the details. This step is nothing to get bent out of shape about however. SO if something is ordered wrong, DON’T sit there and let the order be placed, laugh it off and correct it. DON’T let them order something you don’t eat. Laugh it off and correct it.

            I, myself have been through this step and the changing roles can prove to actually be VERY fun. Suggest it with an open mind at the same time being serious. Don’t switch roles and take him everywhere he wouldn’t want to go. It’s not meant to be a joke.

            I have all confidence that the perfect guy for you will recollect those details about you. I know that it is possible. As well it doesn’t have to be food. If by chance you have shared other information switch roles with that. I shall provide a short list of things this could entail. I’d hate for people to only be eating throughout the day. Open you minds. Eating has been the most common way to present this step however. Creativity isn’t limited though.

 

SUGGESTIONS:

Food- As specified above, you basically order for them. Get detailed. If you have them go to a fastfood joint for a burger, order their burger as close to what they do. “Double-burger, no pickle, no onion, like mustard, with BBQ on the side” [that’s mine].

Hobby- If your prospect says they want to do something fun… suggest a hobby that they’ve expressed that they liked. Of course don’t suit up in a football helmet if football is their favorite, simply play a video game with them. If they like action movies and you like love movies, treat them to an action movie. Ooops YES I said treat them. [That’s no typo].

Shopping­-If they are looking for something to wear before you leave the house… pick the outfit out. If they don’t like you, suggest the color.

 

Just remember that this is supposed to be a stress free step. Add a little fun into it and get creative. Understand that people do like to have fun with their partners. Relationship is NOT an acronym for seriously connected people who can’t laugh and have fun. [See how that doesn’t match]

Furthermore, thank you again for following along with the 10 Steps to a Successful Relationship. As always, feedback is encouraged. I’d love to hear back if you switched roles in a different way.

Be Blessed.

 

 

Step 5: The Test [Optional]

With this next step here, I urge you NOT to confuse the fact that I do NOT condone lying [other than this one time]. It MIGHT not even calls for a lie, however it MIGHT.

With that being said, It’s a known fact that life will throw curb balls at you when you least expect it. Usually we turn to our really close family members, or that best friend that has your whole life encoded in their brain. THIS time, we are going to confide in our prospects. Not because our other friends are not there, but as stated it’s a test.

Your significant other should not only be your romantic partner, but should be able to play the role of your best friend when they need to, of course with the given fact that some things are better talked about with our circle of besties. Again, this is JUST a test.

Today’s step is simple. It might require some prepping so that is why I’ve posted this earlier than expected. ALL you have to do is share a SMALL… TINY dilemma with your prospect.  I mean it when I say small and tiny. Small and tiny being something like: You just took a big test at school [if enrolled], but don’t know if you passed it, you’re stressed out.

See how simple that was.

PLEASE DO NOT TRY AND OVERDO YOUR STORY AND TELL SOME VERY DRAMATIC FAMILY TRAGIC STORY TO SEE IF THEY WILL CATER TO YOUR EVERY NEED AND BABY YOU. PLEASE DO NOT DO THAT. THE STORY SHOULD BE SIMPLE TO TELL AND SIMPLE TO FORGET. IT SHOULD HAVE NO EFFECT IN THE FUTURE. IF YOU ARE A BAD LIAR… ITS ENCOURAGED THAT PERHAPS YOU SIT THIS STEP OUT. [[OR]] SIMPLY BRING UP AN OLD PROBLEM THAT IS ALREADY SOLVED AND SEE HOW THEY REACT.

The POINT: Basically you want to see how he will handle your stress with you when it comes to something important. Even though everyone’s prospect might not react the same or expected way, some sort of reaction IS required. Whether it’s a simple pat on the back to say you’ll do just fine. Whether it’s them testing you on some questions and studying with you on a future exam [If you used the test one as you story]. There is also a possibility that you won’t see the results until your next problem. Meaning when you have another test per say, he/she might offer to study with you because of the last one you weren’t confident with. If you don’t want to make up a story to tell, then there is nothing  wrong with simply questioning what their reaction would be given a situation. Only thing with that approach is, there is a “grand” answer, then there is the “truth”. I myself prefer raw reactions. So I prefer people to show me and not so much tell me. To each its own though.

Don’t get too hasty if you don’t receive that nice smothering attention that you feel you should receive.

The “problem” that you make up is TOTALLY up to you. Again this Step is totally optional. IF you feel that your guy/gal is a concerned individual and needs no testing than I can appreciate your judge of character. You might have picked a good one. If perhaps you feel that you’re not quite sure.. feel free to participate.

This step being so simple should not require TOO much time to produce results and Step 6 will be posted soon.

Step 5: The Test [Optional]

Step 5 Shall be posted today. However, before you get all amped up about participating in it, I’d firstly like to have you take the time to evaluate how supportive your prospect is. Are you able to tell right now?

Is he/she there for his siblings, mother and/or friends? Is he/she always the one that people call to get advice from?

Step 5 is a Test. An optional Test. IF you answered YES to my previous questions.. Then perhaps sit step 5 OUT. There is no need for you to test someone whom has already passed. 

Either who… Between now and noon… decide and prepare for Step 5. Thx!

With Love, You Guru.