Plugged.

Let me get right to it;

i always get asked by the most random people what is it that i do here in atlanta. I’ll tell you what i don’t do…

I do not work for free; ok goodnight… lol [in real life]

Just a synopsis of what it is I do all day – 

ok, so picture this 30 year old human whom has a pretty decent mind with pretty decent goals and just recently decided that they wanted to get serious about life. They decide that in the near future they want to be able to make life decisions and have their finances be ready as well. [however] they don’t know who they need to speak to, what they should do, when they should do it or how for that matter!

Here’s where i come in…

i sit down for about 20 good minutes on the phone or in person [as long as its a good hair day] and I have them tell me their goals just as they did their friends and parents, right. After those 20 good minutes i map out what they will need to do to accomplish these goals – but not only do i map this process out, i assist them in accomplishing this [and] in maintaining their new and improved life, that i let them take all the credit for changing [inserts emoji face].

So in laymens terms, I assist individuals with most things finance:

Obtaining Funding. Personal & Business Loans. Credit Restoration. Credit Building. Business Planning. Business Setup. Bookkeeping. Accounting.

[and a slew of other things that can save a life]

Seguing —

I would have never known the importance of making wise financial decisions and planning ahead financially had it not been for me wanting to get serious about life. so ‘what is it that i do?’ – i help those who are trying to transition and better themselves financially.

Take it from me; you are not going to want to be 40 when you finally decide you want to buy a house with a 30 yr mortgage. Let’s face it, we all won’t become millionaires and buy our houses outright; most of us will be regular people waking up to a different kind of grind.

Words of Wisdom: Education yourself when it comes to finances. Understand how your decisions can effect your future. Know where you stand in life. Acknowledge your true status. Think beyond today - be a Big Picture Thinker!

[Then] speak with me.

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The Pressure

There was a time that I couldn’t find a piece of mind

Stretching every piece of my mind, to what required a piece of my attention

Losing retention; the irony in that.

Taking in so much that I’d forget this and that.

I blamed it on the pressure

My stressors; my many responsibilities.

The rent due, lights, cable, car.. it was killing me.

No literally killing me;

Insomnia kicking in, no sleep — i had no energy.

The pressure, thinking about all the pressure.

Caught a flat tire, gotta get another one; that’s another stressor.

Money flowing in, love flowing out;

Prioritizing the things I can live without.

Just a whole lot of random pressures……

—- [Insert your many pressures in life]

I’m thankful for the pressure

Long nights, early mornings and Starbucks.

I had a random thought, and it translated like a poem actually. My recent pressures have put me in a position lately to choose, to prioritize. It was the worst-best thing that could’ve happened for me. I will admit that I’ve never been the type to force myself to choose if I could find a way to have it all. SO imagine my ignorance to making “this or that” choices. It was all bad… until it wasn’t.

Somehow I managed to make a choice and be good with that choice no matter what. I’ve excelled tremendously in the way that I react to things. Over the past however long, I’ve been really digging in with getting to know the things I like and don’t like. The things I’ll entertain and what just doesn’t work for me. The things that matter and those things that are merely around to provide commercials when you’re tired of dealing with the real things in life.

So yeah, I’m thankful for the pressure. I can say it played a catalyst in the person that I’m becoming. Feeling that pressure taught me that I had to work harder than I ever thought I’d have to work. It taught me to be honest with myself and others. To prioritize. To grind. To turn water into wine.

I feel that one whom has never had a moment when the pressure is on, 3 seconds til the buzzer, with the game winning three point jumper on you… they just won’t understand where the real grind originates from.

Words of Wisdom: Don’t be afraid of that added pressure. You’ll either get through it a conqueror or a loser; you choose. 

Scared of Success

Hi {Inserts Wave}

It wasn’t until I moved out of Florida that I realized that I was scared of success. It wasn’t until I starting figuring out ways to be successful that I found out that I could’ve been doing this a long time ago.

I’m been blessed with so many opportunities this year alone, it really was scary. So many different avenues and options. So many ways to get to where I wanted to be and I’m just now realizing that what held me back before wasn’t that I couldn’t do it; it was that I was scared to be successful.

I know this sounds weird… maybe. Maybe some of you can relate.

I used to question my ability. Although, I knew I was able to do anything I put my mind to, there was a certain thought that steered me away. There was a little voice in my head like “but can you REALLY do that?” 

For 2 years, I’d contemplated moving away to a new somewhere and move forward with life. For while, I couldn’t find my inspiration. I could barely conjure up a smile. For two years, the pages of my journals were filled with questions that I’d go back and read that stated:

• “Can you really leave your mother?”
• “Can you really finish college?”
• “Can you really start you own business and be a Boss?”
• “Can you really let go and move on?”
• “Do you really believe in yourself?”

Yes, yes I can, and I did, and YES I do!

Words of Wisdom: Don’t be afraid to be good at something. Don’t be scared to be all that you can be. EVEN if you’re going in a different direction that everyone you love and know, don’t be afraid to take that path. You never know what life has for YOU. I don’t know if the next quote is in the bible or not, but ‘they say’ that:

“What’s for you, is for YOU”…

I sit here today believing in that wholeheartedly; I left, and I’ve conquered more in 2013 than I have my whole entire life I feel like. I faced every fear I knew that I had. I’m nowhere near where I want to be, but I’m a lot closer than I was last year and the year before that.

I just felt that I needed to tell someone that you are as great as you think/feel you are, but nowhere near as great as you can be. Success is something to be conquered and fought for. I now know this.

So from one person that has recently conquered a small portion of her success… I pass this encouragement to you 🙂

Furthermore, be blessed beautiful reader & goodnight.

Everyone Knows What Sex is Right??

Everyone knows what sex is right?

Its that physical interaction between two people that allow pleasure and pain to collide into a scene of satisfaction with a bit of emotion thrown off it there… right?

As I agree with my above off the noggin definition.. I, however think there is a totally different definition that you can’t find in Webster. You actually won’t even know the definition if you don’t experience it… I feel.

See in my mind sex isn’t just a physical interaction, as I’m sure some would agree with me. Sex is power. I know I know.. calm down, I’m going to explain.

Sex Is Power.

For whatever reason, I’ve observed and experienced that relationships end THAT much worse once you’ve added sex into the equation. For whatever reason, sex brings a sense of entitlement like “I gave you a part of me, at LEAST give me a part of you.. you owe me that much”. Ladies hate when their body count goes up. Guys don’t too much mind (sorry if I misjudged any guy that does). I feel that society glorifies sex, so in the instance where it’s done in a loose manner it’s made a big deal of. I feel that subconsciously, we all know that sex is power. It reminds me of the N-word. Everyone knows the connotation behind it. Everyone knows how far to go with it. In the instant that it’s used loosely or by the wrong person.. it’s shunned upon.

Keep Your Power.

Imagine being Spider Man and not knowing how to shoot the web; Being Superman and not knowing how to fly. We’re not jumping off any ledges any time soon… Maybe a dresser or two, but no big buildings. Treat sex the same way. Until you realize the power that you have, don’t be so hasty to utilize it or indulge in something.

Sex is not just a physical act. It’s not reluctance. It’s not confusing or misleading. It’s not a way to get what you want. It’s not indecisive. It won’t make anyone stay any longer (at least not for the right reasons).

Sex is understanding. Sex is mutual. Sex is mature. Sex is a form of communication. Sex is a language. Sex is religion. Sex is a story. Sex is passion. Sex is a choice.

It’s many things. But above all in my shared opinion.

Sex is Power.

Words of Wisdom: My words of wisdom are simple; There are NO consequences to NOT having sex with someone… 

I definitely hope my sweet young lady who sent me the inbox reads this… I hope that in the future you come across someone whom you are not reluctant to sharing your power with… –Guru

Furthermore, Be Blessed.

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Let It Go…

Hello dear readers,

I’ve been inspired once again. I won’t lie, at first, your Guru was somber while thinking about this topic. Once my pen hit the pad though, I became inspired.

February was a very turbulent month for me. Filled with plenty of emotions and decisions. Confrontations with my past and indecisiveness about my future.

After careful consideration, long nights of talking to best friend, and a few tears… I felt what better to do than to let it go and love from a distance.

I mean let it go and love in every aspect there is.

See my lovelies… What I’ve grown to understand is that things in your life are like they are because YOU haven’t changed them. You are still in that blah relationship because YOU haven’t left. You are still at that torturous job because YOU haven’t left. You are bored, lonely and miserable because YOU are allowing yourself to be.

I observed that most of what we allow to remain a burden in our lives are really our comforts in life. They are our fears that we don’t have to confront because we aren’t rattling them.

Let It Go…

Its a harsh reality that everything and everyone in your life today will not make it to your future, and that’s okay.

As your Guru I like to lead by example:

I let go of home. I’m loving Florida from a distance. I let go of friendships and relationships and I will love those people from a distance. I let go of stress. I let go of my hair. I let go of worry and anything associated with the negative.

I will love it from a distance.

‘They’ say if you love something, let it go and if it comes back blah blah blah… PERHAPS they should say, “If you feel something isn’t loving you back, LET IT GO, and THEN see if it comes back”… Better yet, see if you let it come back!

When you genuinely let go of all that dead weight.. When it comes back around see how quick you are to open that door.

Words of Wisdom: In a nutshell dear reader, don’t live alongside things that only bring complaints. Don’t mingle with misery. IF you feel a certain way, don’t ignore your feelings. Don’t smother your happiness with your fears.

Let It Go… I Did.

Furthermore Be Blessed..

The Art of Cheating

So if you read the title and think that I’m going to be coaching you on how to cheat, you’re wrong. I’ve titled this “The Art of Cheating” because over the years, I’ve come to find out that there REALLY is a technique. There are rules, and exceptions, clauses, and stipulations when it comes to cheating.

Myself personally, I have my very own thoughts on it. I’m not here to cast my opinion much either. Merely, I want to help you formulate and wrap your mind around what it is that is going on.

What Is Cheating?

Cheating is a dishonest act, attacking the personal integrity of oneself. This is not a Webster definition versus that of my own.

Why Do People Cheat?

The million dollar question. People cheat because they lack lust for their situation. They don’t appreciate their situation. They don’t respect their situation enough to turn their head to what we know as temptation. Temptation being that rebel act that we know we shouldn’t do, but would enjoy.

What Is Considered Cheating?

That my reader is up to YOU. I know the most common are sex and kissing. Anything else we usually put under disrespect and argue about it.

Myself personally: Cheating is considered as an interaction involving some form of romance that one knows that I would not approve of, nor would they try it in front of myself or in the public eye.

So reader, I leave the boundaries up to you. In any closed relationship however, boundaries are needed. They are pretty much unspoken and established right along with your standards and expectations for the relationship. It’s good to have that understanding.

What To Do If You’ve Been Cheated On?

You already KNOW this answer. OK, next question.

No I kid. Cheating is a topic like abortion. It’s all about your beliefs. There are some people who have moments where they let their integrity wait in the car while temptation awaited them. There ARE some people who ARE genuinely regretful of a situation. However, with all of that said, it really has NOTHING to do with the apologies, the bended-knees, the flowers/cards/candy. It has NOTHING to do with the cheater at this point. It’s all about you. One has to ask themselves, could I go on and forget what happened. Can I put this past me and banish the ill taste in my mouth. There is NO use being in a relationship where you forgive, but reiterate the bad choice every time they make a make a bad choice. There is no use continuing a relationship where the trust can no longer be built back up. It will on drain you. Even if there is love involved, it won’t feel like the genuine love you first sought after. You have to be at peace with the situation.

Once a Cheater Always A Cheater?

Not necessarily. But I will say, once a cheater, always CAPABLE of it.

Words of Wisdom:

Cheating is a choice. If cheating was forced, it wouldn’t be called cheating. If someone cheats on you, or if you cheat on someone, you and them are making a choice. It is your decree. They are your consequences and no one owes you any sympathy for the turn out.

“The world is too small to think that no one ever sees you…” –Guru