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Who wears the pants??
I grew up in a household where no one really wore the pants, everyone just played a role; no role really being greater than the other. Long story short, I grew up with the notion that it wasn’t about “who wears the pants”, but more about how well each person wears them.
She Makes More Than Me…
In society, I feel that it’s expected and accepted that in a relationship the man can and/or should make more than his woman. In my mind I don’t agree nor disagree with that standard. I just feel that there are calibers, and exceptions to this unwritten rule.
I’ll start by saying that I don’t feel it’s necessarily a terrible thing if the woman makes more than a man… My only rule to that is: It’s not an issue for the woman to make more than the man AS LONG AS the man is making enough to take care of his household off of his means alone.
Is that too strict?? Well don’t jump down my throat too quickly, because I feel this rule applies to women as well.
Well let me try and explain this the best way I know how. At the end of the day, I feel that a man should have the proper means to take care of his household if something ever was to go wrong and he needed to step up. So it’s like even if the man is an under-paid teacher and the woman is a top dollar Certified Accountant, his teaching salary shouldn’t size up to a McDonald’s check when it comes to taking care of a household.
The Real Problem..
I feel that more than anything, the difference in pay could effect one’s ego. However, I feel it’s important to understand that as long as your partner doesn’t have a problem with the difference in the weight of your checks, then it’s fine. I honestly don’t find it to be as big of a deal as many may think it is. I feel that the real problem isn’t really the difference in checks at all. I feel that it has to do with evaluating the lifestyle…
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See. A woman who’s making good money can afford to do things that a man making a small check cannot. She can afford to spend and know it’s coming back. She can afford to pay all of her bills and still go out and splurge on a new handbag. She afford to not need a man. I feel that men yearn for that feeling of being needed that when that feeling is null and void, it does something to them. It brings about an insecurity that women maybe can’t truly be empathetic to because we don’t know what it’s really like.
Words of Wisdom: Communicate with your partner if them making more bothers you. Do things that will make you feel a bit more empowered.. pay an extra bill :). Furthermore, gain that security within your relationship. If your partner doesn’t see it as a big deal, then don’t make it a big deal. IF you happen to make a McDonald’s sized check in comparison to your partners check then HEY! Don’t duck down, BE A BOSS! Make your partner forget you make pennies to their dollar.
WEAR THOSE PANTS, AND WEAR THEM WELL!!
Furthermore, Be Blessed.